A lesson before turning 20

So while walking a dear family friend and her grandbaby to their car outside of my complex on Sunday, I was bombarded by a young man's voice shouting "Hey! hey! hey! My homeboy wanna holla at you!" while I was proceeding back into my gated community. I said "You're too young for me baby." And kept walking. I got back inside the gate and had to walk past where the young men were playing basketball to get to my house so I said to myself Self, if these young men try to talk to you again, you should let them know that their manner of approaching you is not appropriate Sure enough ... "Hey! Hey! HEY! He wanna holla at you!" So I stopped and pulled the young man over and asked him to have a word with me. I said "How old are you?" He replied, "13." I said, "OK, I'm going to teach you a life lesson. The next time you want to talk to a girl or young lady or what have you, do not yell, 'Hey! Hey!' It's rude. She has a name and I can almost guarantee that it's not 'Hey!' Instead, with those strong lungs of yours, say 'Excuse miss or young lady may I speak with you for a moment or what is your name?'" He says to me "OK." In conclusion of this lesson I said, "Now, I'm 20 years old." (I know I'm not yet but it was the principle of the story that I was trying to get across) And he becomes very apologetic. "It's OK ... just remember what I told you."

Now all you young men take that to heart and heed my words. A little politeness in your tone will get you far in life.

If you missed my party

-Ya missed my crazy ass family drinking wine and eating food and talking all kinds of loud.
-My critically acclaimed Macaroni and Cheese
-The bomb birthday cake from the one and only Costco.
-A political debate before we sang "Happy Birthday"
-Singing "Happy Birthday"
-My cute new white skirt that I bought for 10 bucks.
-Seeing me open 300 bucks worth of gifts.
-A slumber party with three very cool ladies.
- ... and most importantly ... ME!

Now ... you'll be sure to celebrate with me next year won't you? :-) Don't feel bad. I'm kind of glad only one of my friends showed up to the actual party (Clare and Cristina came later that night) because I didn't get to spend much time with anybody because I was playing hostess and talking about my upcoming trip abroad with people. You probably would have felt ignored and a little overwhelmed because my family often has that effect on people. Oh well ... I'll be 20 in two days and a phone call or nice note will more than make up for any guilty feelings you may have :-)

I forgot that I remembered to forget you

So this guy that I had a crush on for a really long time IMed me out of the blue the other day. The box from AIM popped up that's like "so and so has sent you an instant message 'Accept' or 'Reject'" I thought to myself ... no wonder I haven't seen him online. He's usually on and idle with an away message. OMG! I totally took you off my buddy list and completely forgot that I remembered to forget you! ... I'm so proud of myself. Then he asks me this question. I said to my computer screen "If you talked to me, you would know this shit!" It was a short conversation. He had to go. WHATEVER! Why did he make me think of him? Now he's on my buddy list again until I get up the courage to remember to forget again. DAMN! I hope he doesn't read this. He's not as dumb as most boys I know. He knows how to put two and two together. Well even if he does I don't give a damn! That's how I feel. If I don't talk to you and you never initiate a conversation with me and I'm always the one initiating conversations then one day I'm gonna see the light and not waste my time anymore. It's a waste of oxygen to call someone a friend or "buddy" when you're the one giving giving giving and they're the one taking taking taking. I'm a generous person but I'm not an idiot and I know how to take a hint. Is taking someone off my buddy list cold? I don't think so. If you only use the shit to promote yourself and let people know that you are distant and unavailable why take up my precious buddy space with your screenname? How 'bout dem apples!